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August 17, 2020

Genealogy is Important

August 17, 2020

My grandmother Essie Mae McClure (Doyle) and I

A few years back I began the quest to find out more information about my family history. Recently, I’ve made great progress in my genealogy search. My genealogy searches have been connected to the maternal side of my mother’s family.

The beautiful queen you see pictured above is my grandmother Essie Mae McClure (Doyle). She is my mother’s mom. My grandmother was and still is a strong woman. She had 16 kids. Made it from Birmingham to Chicago. She was the brains and backbone to the many great things my grandfather (on my mother’s side) accomplished.

When my grandmother transitioned over, I was with her when she passed and have been deeply connected to her ever since. With her passing, I always wanted to my grandmother’s family story. Keeping in mind, she transitioned when I was two years old.

Yes, stories have been shared in our family. In Black families there are certain things we just don’t talk about, which needs to stop. Hence, I am the change agent in my family. I disrupt generational patterns to get us in a better space of healing. Back to the stories…not much was shared about her mother/father, her grandparents, her indigenous roots, and need to know family stories. To know her story is to know my family truth.

I’m intrigued to know my history. I’ve always wanted to know where I come from. I’ve always wanted to know who are the ancestors standing behind me, protecting me and guiding me. I just wanted or shall I say needed to know. In my recent searches, I was able to find the exact indigenous tribe my grandmother’s linage was connected to, and have made progress on finding ancestors who may have been enslaved.

The genealogy search is a continuous process. Some times I can find information and sometimes I don’t. Sometimes when doing research I find information that’s overwhelming, which comes with family history. That said, it’s important to know who we are. Knowing who we are and where we come from gives you esteem to keep pushing in life. What I know for sure is when the ancestors are ready for you to find them, they will appear.

My research still continues this is the beginning. Let’s continue the conversation below. For those who are into genealogy how has your search been?

Until next time,

-Peach

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March 30, 2020

Uncorked: Family Outliers

March 30, 2020

Hey-Heyy,

How’s everyone doing with chilling in the house? This past weekend was better for me than previous quarantine weekends. I’m still adjusting to my new normal. Digital content is helping me with said adjustment. Giving me something to do. Uncorked the movie, let’s talk about it! Uncorked premiered March 27th on Netflix. It was a really good movie. I’m not going to give any spoilers. I’ll say this, there were many resonating moments in the film.

The main character Elijah, I connected with. We shared many similarities. Being the family outlier. Being distant or vague about plans, in fear of judgement. Having the opportunity to work/own the family business but declining. Letting fear and lack of persistence hold us back from accomplishing dreams. Trying many professions to find one that sticks. This film read my soul.

The bigger theme of the film that stood out was….the concept of being different and what different looks like in the Black families. After watching the movie, my mom and I had a conversation about me being different and what acceptance felt like for me growing up. From our conversation, I will say this…

In the Black community, when we choose to do something out of the norm from our conditioned upbringing sometimes it’s not well received. To shift our family narrative in a impactful way, sometimes we go through many wonderful life moments alone. What I have learned overtime is, we can’t expect our family or outside people to understand. If there is something we are passionate about or feel purposeful in doing, we must lean into the uncertainty and go with it.

Outliers in families are divinely created to shake ish up. As families, we can become conditioned into limiting mindsets. In return, when limiting mindsets become a normalcy, the universe sends people into our lives to change our way of being. Outliers hold the gift of getting families to create a new normal.

Salute to the outliers of every family. The family outliers who are never understood, move to the beat of their own drum…and continue to move forward in their pursuits when their scared as hell. Whether you know it our not, your family appreciates and respects the changes you make.

I encourage everyone to watch the film Uncorked. The film beautifully depicted the “being different” conversation Black families and any family for that matter don’t discuss enough. From your family experience would you say are the outlier? If you are the outlier, what has the experience been like for you?

Something to think about…

Until Next Time,

-Peach

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December 4, 2016

Finding The Doyle Plantation

December 4, 2016

img_1256A year of so when I first started Destination Peach, I did a blog post titled Southern Peach. In the post, I mentioned that I would talk about my family heritage. Specifically, what that experience was like when visiting Birmingham, Alabama. And now I’m finally ready to talk about it!

When my family originally visited Birmingham, it was for the funeral of my great aunt Mary on my mom’s side. However, the Birmingham visit turned into an endless road trip (shout to my uncle Keith). Alright, let me get back on track. When we were in Birmingham, I came up with the idea to track our historical roots. Tracking our historical roots, led us to the Doyle plantation. Doyle is my mother’s maiden name. While in Birmingham I started asking the elders about the Doyle plantation, and they gave specific instructions on how to get there.

Now my family was looking at me like I was bat-shit crazy. I was asked multiple times…why should we know about our history and the Doyle plantation? I had to remind my family that, we need to know where we come from and understand how our ancestors fought for us to be here. As a consensus, everyone said… “we feel you Peach, let’s go find the Doyle plantation”. With my plans in action I was excited and extremely nervous.

The day we set off to find the plantation, we started the adventure early. Starting the adventure early was key because we didn’t want to be in the backwoods of Birmingham at night. Like going to the club, we rolled out deep. Five trucks riding through the backwoods of Birmingham. On our way to the plantation we got lost several times, GPS stopped working. Everyone wanted to turn around.

In my mind…I was like, ” we came to far to turn around”. So, I started to ask people living in the area for help. I literally got out of the car, and knocked on the homes of people who had their confederate flags waving high. One home in particular, I was extremely nervous to knock on the door. I asked my family to stay in the cars, because a group of Black people knocking on doors wasn’t the scene we needed at the moment. As I knocked on the door, a man came out.

The man said: Can I help you?

Me: Yes sir.

Man: What do you want?

Me: I am looking for the Doyle plantation, its where my family is from. I’m not from here.

Man: Where are you from?

Me: Colorado.

Man: Where all the weed is?

Me: Yes!

Man: I would sure love to visit Colorado, I can smoke all the weed I want.

Me: Colorado is a lovely place.

Me: Sir do you know how to get to the Doyle plantation?

Man: Sure, let me help you…and I want you to meet my family.

Me: Absolutely!

Man: Hey y’all…she’s from Colorado.

As the man started to give me the instructions to the Doyle plantation he reiterated that we needed to be careful because we could randomly end up in swamp water. After 40 minutes, we finally found the plantation. Once we arrived at the plantation, it was the most interesting experience ever. I didn’t know how to feel. This was the land my people were slaves on. While observing the plantation, the family that now owns the property came out to speak. The family insisted that it wasn’t a plantation. In my mind, “I was like… so ma’am your just gonna act like this isn’t a plantation with all these cotton crops around…okay!”

img_1231From the original pictures and instructions this was the Doyle plantation. The new owners spruced up the plantation, to make it not seem like a plantation. Intuitively, I knew it was the Doyle plantation.

img_1236As we spent an hour at the plantation, I knew my family was forever changed. After the experience, I later found out that my grandfather was named after the slave master. And the story of what happened to my great-grand father is still to be determined. Learning that slavery was not that far removed from my family, gave me the motivation I needed to keep going. My next genealogy quest is to track the indigenous roots of my grandmother Essie Mae.

Knowing who you are and where you come from is powerful liberation!

Until next time…

-Peach

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December 16, 2015

All I Want For Christmas Is…

December 16, 2015

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It’s officially the most wonderful time of the year (cue Andy Williams voice). Christmas is one of my favorite holidays! As a kid and still till this day, Christmas has always been a magical time for me. The older I get, giving to others and spending quality time with my loved ones means everything to me. Not to mention receiving a gift or two is always nice. Since I was a kid I have always made a Christmas wishlist and haven’t stopped yet. Whether I personally buy everything on my list (sometimes you gotta treat yourself)…or my family buys everything on my list; creating a wishlist brings back great childhood memories.

Here’s my 2015 Christmas wishlist…

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  1. You Got This: Mantra Coloring Book
  2. Enrollment in Courage Works Class by Brene Brown
  3. Sonia Kashuk Makeup Brushes
  4. Yeezy Boosts 350
  5. Candles
  6. The Original Contour Kit
  7. Ikea Gift Card

If there is something on your wishlist you want or a favorite holiday memory you have…be sure to share it below in the comment section.

Until next time…

-Peach

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