Until next time… -Dr. Peach
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Resting until the new year
For those who may have missed me last week or wondered where I was… please know I am good! I needed time to rest. When thinking of a blog post to write for last week, I did not want to force myself into writing with no inspiration. Instead, I focused on being more present in the moment and rested. Resting and being present in the moment are December goals of mines.
In preparation for the holidays… my intention is to rest, reflect, and be fully present. That said, I will continue to post regularly scheduled blog posts starting January 4th. During this time, I encourage everyone to rest as well. 2020 has been one hellva a year, and we all deserve time to rest and reset.
See you on January 4, 2021.
Until next time,
-Peach
Send Them Grace…
Grace is the ability to forgive. Grace is the removal of judging situations. Grace surrenders into not taking the outcome of a situation personal. Grace is the ability to love yourself and others in undesirable moments. The ability to send a person or situation grace speaks to where you are on your healing journey.
Lately, I have shifted into the mindset of sending people and situations grace. In doing so this has cultivated more balance and peace in my life. It is becoming easier for me in situations to not hold on to anger or be spiteful when being wronged. Instead I express the sentiment of “may peace be upon you” and continue moving forward.
Sending people and situations grace in realist terms is the indirect art of not giving a fu*k, while displaying high level of empathy and compassion. The intention in sending grace to others is to…
- Remove the emotion of our wounded ego.
- Be in stillness with the situation.
- Send positive energy to the person or situation we are affected by.
When we are not in a space to send people or situations grace, we become emotionally confined to the outcome. Being confined to the outcome of situations implies we are driven by our ego. In return, our ego will make us feel emotions of anxiety, fear, and hurt blocking us from true moments of happiness.
The reality is that we can’t control people and situations…but we can control our reactions. We can control the types of energy we allow into our vibration. We can control where we invest our energy. Charged up emotions about people and situations is wasted time.
So how do we exactly send people and situations grace…
- Let it go! You don’t need to give situations a response, just move on.
- Send positive energy/light to the person or situation. People are going through life; we don’t know their situation.
- Release the attachment to the situation. Feel your feelings, heal those feelings, and release those feelings.
- Express gratitude. Be thankful for the situation which occurred and learn something from it.
This week and future weeks ahead challenge yourself to send people grace in challenging moments.
Until next time,
-Peach
Day in a life: High Vibration Living
Right now, vibes/vibration is a trending term. On any given day we hear or see people post online about “no negative vibes” and “high vibration”. There’s many resources online about “high vibration”. However, as many of us are expanding our consciousness on high vibration living, it brings up the question…what does an actual day of high vibration look like?
Today, I wanted to share what a typical day can look like in high vibration. The intention of a high vibration day is to complete things/activities which nurture the soul. High vibration days should leave us feeling empowered, enlightened, and in alignment with the best version of ourselves.
Here’s what a high vibration day can look like for me…
As I close out this blog post, it’s important for me to note high vibration living is a choice. By setting intentions at the beginning of the day, we set the tone. We must be mindful in how we go about each day. Be mindful in who we interact with. Be mindful in what we eat/drink. Be mindful about what gets our attention/energy. Everyday won’t be perfect but make the most out of what is. Everyday is not a high vibration day for me and when it is not, I am gentle with myself and allow myself to just be.
Let’s keep the conversation going…in what ways do you have a high vibration day?
Until next time,
-Peach
2015 Rewind: Three Cops Pulled Out Guns on Me…
Halloween 2015! I remember this day clearly. The morning started of good. I got up, ate breakfast put on my costume and headed to work. It was Halloween, which meant a laid back day of teaching. I was excited about seeing my students in costumes and I knew my teaching department would win for best group costume. The day went by smoothly. Classes went by fast and students were happy. 3:30pm the school bell rang. I hurried my students out the building to carpool. As soon as my last student got into the car, the weekend began.
After work, I planned on going to a teacher party. Teacher parties are interesting. Like a student once said to me, “you never know what teachers do after 5pm”, which is absolutely correct! Before the party, I went home and took a nap.
I love naps! After my nap I got up and put my costume on. Got in the car. Drove to the party. The party was in some far White suburb of Denver. I knew I wouldn’t stay long at the party, because I was Black in a White neighborhood and it was Halloween.
Couple hours into the party, I had a drink and mingled. After realizing it was getting late, I knew it was time to go home. Got in my car, put on my seat belt and drove off. For some reason I was nervous about driving home. Instinctively, I knew something was about to happen. I kept thinking if I can make it to the highway, I’ll be fine.
While driving, I noticed the stop light to get to the highway wasn’t working. I sat at the streetlight way too long. 10 mins went by. I was the only car on the street. I got nervous. Black woman, White neighborhood (enough said). Out of fear, I ran the streetlight. Now you may be thinking why would you run the light?
As a Black woman, stuck on an isolated street… I wanted to get home quickly and safely. The streetlight never moved. As soon as I ran the light, three cop cars pulled me over. Immediately, my heart started beating fast. I was fucking scared! Deep down, I knew they stopped the street lights, because how could three cop cars pop out of nowhere to pull me over.
I pulled over. When I pulled over, I rolled down all the car windows. I turned on the lights inside my car and put my hand on the steering wheel. In panic I wanted to make sure I didn’t look like a “threat” to the cops. Three cops walked towards my car. As I looked in the rear view mirror, I noticed they all have their guns pointed at me as they walk. Guns where cocked and ready to fire!
In my mind, I was thinking “they’re going to fucking kill me”. I started to panic. I tried to get my phone ready to record and dropped my phone on the floor. I didn’t pick my phone up because, I didn’t want them to think I was reaching for a weapon. As they slowly approached my car ready to shoot…they surrounded me. One cop on the left. One cop on the right. One cop in the back of the car.
The cop on the left (driver’s side) said, “do you know what we are pulling you over for?”
Tears rolling down my face I said, “I’m very scared, you all have your guns pointed at me.”
Cop said again,”do you know what we are pulling you over for?”
I said, “because I ran the streetlight. I ran the streetlight because it wasn’t working. I didn’t feel safe being stuck at a streetlight this late at night. Your pointing your gun at me and I didn’t do anything wrong. You’re scaring me!”
Cop goes “licence and registration please”.
I said, “I’m going to open the glove compartment to get my license and registration, is that okay”, I lean over get my license and registration and hand it to the cop.
The cop walks back to his car.
The other cops still had their guns pointed at me. 15 minutes go by. My heart is racing, tears are running down my face. The cop comes back. The cop hands me my license and registration.
Cop said, “you can go home”. They put the guns away. Got in they’re cars. I drive off. I kept the windows down, so I could feel the cool breeze across my face. I wiped the salty tears from my face. As soon as I got within the city limits of Denver, I pulled over in a 711 store across the street from my home.
In the parking lot I cried! I picked up my phone to call my boyfriend at the time. I let him know what happened. It was too late to call my parents. I then text my teacher friend at the party to let her know what happened.
I left the parking lot. Drove across the street. Went in the house. Locked the door. Took of my clothes and cried. I felt scared. I felt anxious. I was physically shaking. I felt helpless.
When I think about that day, I am blessed to be alive. Was I wrong from running the streetlight, yes. But did running a streetlight warrant three cops to point they’re loaded guns at me, NO! The cops could have easily pulled me over and walked up to the car without guns.
Experiencing a situation such as this was traumatic. It was an experience I will never forget. I wanted to share my experience, adding confirmation of police brutality being a very real thing. I also wanted to share a direct experience adding to the narratives of unjust treatment Black people receive when interacting with law enforcement. Being Black does not constitute any reason for law enforcement to treat us unjustly.
Until Next Time,
-Peach
Quarantine Check in- Taking a step back
Hey Heyy,
How are we all doing? As we are living in interesting times, the effects are weighing on me. I know I’m not the only one feeling this way. To cope with how I am feeling, I’ve decided to take a step back.
As I have been working to help other people feel better, I depleted my energy. I’ve been taking on the energy of others. Le struggle, of an empath-healer. I literally woke up one morning last week and said, I have nothing to give. I thought to myself, how can I motivate and inspire others if I have no motivational energy to pull from. I needed a break. In my break, I haven’t been doing much of anything besides being kind to myself, and setting boundaries on how/when I help others.
Sometimes, I forget the influence I have. Many people look to me for motivation and sound advice. This can be overwhelming at times. As we help others we must be strategic in how we help and set boundaries. Say no sometimes. We can’t give to people when we are depleted. If you must take a step back, step back and don’t feel guilty in doing so.
Until next time,
-Peach
Toxicity is a choice!
Hey Heyy,
Today’s blog post has been inspired by recent things I’ve seen online and conversations I’ve been having. Lately, I’ve noticed the glorifying of toxic behavior, toxic relationships, just overall toxic ways of living. Such glorification has many people confused into believing toxic behavior is a normal way of life.
I’m not sure who needs to hear this but, it’s not normal to…
- Stay in an abusive relationship.
- Curse, scream, and yell at people.
- Be drunk and high all the time.
- Be around drama all the time.
- Always play the victim.
- Cheat and manipulate.
- Physically harm yourself or others.
- Sexually violate people.
- Be negative and complain all the time.
As adults we all have choices. Toxicity is a choice! I repeat, toxicity is a choice! As adults we have to take responsibility for the types of people and energetic situations we allow into our lives. When you allow toxic situations into your life, don’t cry woe is me. Active participation in dysfunction comes with consequences. Own your ish!
Now some people reading this may say, growing up in dysfunction is the reason they act a certain way. I understand but I can’t empathize with a diabolical excuse. How we are raised doesn’t give us the right to continue toxic behavior as adults. The moment we are able to distinguish what toxic behavior is, it is up to us to change those behaviors. This is why self-work is so important and one of the hardest jobs in our lives.
When we engage in toxic behavior it is a dishonor to ourselves. Do we not love ourselves enough to make healthier choices serving our highest self? Make good choices! Make non-toxic choices! If you find yourself getting off track, take a moment. Pause/reflect and get back on track.
Until Next Time,
-Peach
Take Quarantine Inventory on Your Life
As I’ve been sitting in the house all I have is time to think. Such thinking has inspired me to take inventory on my life. You know, taking a deeper divine into situations and people that have to go. Truth be told, I’m always reflecting and making modifications. However, now I have more time and less distractions. Being in quarantine really gives perspective on who’s really there for you and who’s not. If your in quarantine and realize certain people or situations no longer serve you, it’s time to take inventory.
When something no longer serves you it will be an undeniable gut feeling. You can feel something isn’t right. When you get that feeling, it’s a nudge for you to change it. Here’s a few quarantine examples…
- You call or text people and they don’t communicate back.
- You read text messages or receive phone calls about things your not interested in.
- Movies or music you were once interested in become annoying.
- Your seeking more meaning from life.
- You are struggling with being still and getting to know yourself.
If any of those examples sound familiar…it’s time to take inventory. To guide your quarantine inventory process, find a place to be still and reflect on the following questions:
- What matter’s the most to me right now?
- What areas of my life have I been the least productive in?
- Who has contacted me and asked me, are you okay?
- Who have I contacted during quarantine, did they appreciate it?
- What thoughts, things or people are adding more anxiety/stress to my life?
- What thoughts, things or people are adding extreme joy and sanity into my life?
- If quarantine becomes my new normal for a few months what should my daily/weekly schedule look like?
I hope these questions serve purpose in helping you make space in your life for new people/things after quarantine.
Until Next Time,
-Peach
Uncorked: Family Outliers
Hey-Heyy,
How’s everyone doing with chilling in the house? This past weekend was better for me than previous quarantine weekends. I’m still adjusting to my new normal. Digital content is helping me with said adjustment. Giving me something to do. Uncorked the movie, let’s talk about it! Uncorked premiered March 27th on Netflix. It was a really good movie. I’m not going to give any spoilers. I’ll say this, there were many resonating moments in the film.
The main character Elijah, I connected with. We shared many similarities. Being the family outlier. Being distant or vague about plans, in fear of judgement. Having the opportunity to work/own the family business but declining. Letting fear and lack of persistence hold us back from accomplishing dreams. Trying many professions to find one that sticks. This film read my soul.
The bigger theme of the film that stood out was….the concept of being different and what different looks like in the Black families. After watching the movie, my mom and I had a conversation about me being different and what acceptance felt like for me growing up. From our conversation, I will say this…
In the Black community, when we choose to do something out of the norm from our conditioned upbringing sometimes it’s not well received. To shift our family narrative in a impactful way, sometimes we go through many wonderful life moments alone. What I have learned overtime is, we can’t expect our family or outside people to understand. If there is something we are passionate about or feel purposeful in doing, we must lean into the uncertainty and go with it.
Outliers in families are divinely created to shake ish up. As families, we can become conditioned into limiting mindsets. In return, when limiting mindsets become a normalcy, the universe sends people into our lives to change our way of being. Outliers hold the gift of getting families to create a new normal.
Salute to the outliers of every family. The family outliers who are never understood, move to the beat of their own drum…and continue to move forward in their pursuits when their scared as hell. Whether you know it our not, your family appreciates and respects the changes you make.
I encourage everyone to watch the film Uncorked. The film beautifully depicted the “being different” conversation Black families and any family for that matter don’t discuss enough. From your family experience would you say are the outlier? If you are the outlier, what has the experience been like for you?
Something to think about…
Until Next Time,
-Peach
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