Destination Peach

Where Reality and Inspiration Meet

Half Way Up

It has been a long time since I posted. My absence has been for a great reason. I am nearing the final phases of my dissertation, which means I can finally see the lights at the end of the tunnel…and by lights, I mean the graduation lights in the stadium in which I will be wearing my expensive cap and gown.

The doctoral journey has been long…and now that I am nearing the end of my journey it has been a surreal experience. I’ve been in school since Pre-K…and I’m tired. Yet, I feel encouraged knowing by December my journey will be completed. Needless to say, I am half way up the mountain in my journey to the top!

In my writing hiatus, there has been so much content I’ve been wanting to write…but in between helping people heal, going hard on my dissertation, and maintaining my self-care…I haven’t had time. What I have learned in my hiatus is that greatness requires dedication.

I choose to be great! In my dedication to personal greatness, I can only commit to so many things before I feel overwhelmed and start to operate from a space of mediocracy. All of my creative brilliance has been dedicated to my dissertation and writing in different compacities.

There will be future blog posts coming soon. Trust and believe.

Until next time…

-Peach

 

See You At The Top!

To celebrate my 30th birthday I set the intention to hike Camelback Mountain in Phoenix, AZ. What is powerful about setting intentions is that conscious effort is made in manifesting the outcomes we would like to achieve. My intention with the hike was simple…hike to the top of the mountain, be in nature, and have a spiritual experience that was liberating. Turning 30 is a milestone, and I wanted to bring in my 30’s doing an activity that reflected where I am in this present moment. So…I decided to hike!

I opted to complete the hike alone because I needed time to self-reflect and manifest the intentions I set forth. As I started the hike everything was great…the trail wasn’t to rigorous…the weather was just right and the sunrise couldn’t have been more beautiful. However, midway through the hike everything started to change. The incline of the hike got higher, the boulders got tricker, and shit got realer.

I kept asking myself…”who’s idea was it to hike, your’s!”. In the midst of my doubt, I kept hiking. I was determined to make it to the TOP. Interestingly enough, as the hike became more challenging it was a reflection of how life is. When things get hard in life…doubt sets in and the negative self-ego comes out to play. And when we least expect it the universe rises to meet us where we are, if we choose to do our self-work.

When the universe met me where I was, I was feeling defeated on the hiking trail. About to turn back around, I met this beautiful woman. She was a spirit guide sent to me by God.  As I was taking a break to sip water, our eyes connected and the conversation began…

Me: Good morning.

Spirit guide: Good morning.

Spirit guide: What brings you to the mountain?

Me: I wanted to try something different this morning.

Spirit Guide: I believe God brought you to the mountain this morning.

Me: *Looks at the woman with a blank stare*

Spirit Guide: Do you need any thing?

Me: I’m okay.

Spirit Guide: To make the hike easier look at the number marks and stay to the right side of the trail.

Me: Thank you…have a nice day!

Spirit Guide: Have a nice day!

As I continued to rest…the spirit guide hiked up the mountain. 30 minutes later, I see the spirit guide again…

Spirit Guide: How are you doing?

Me: I’m doing okay.

Spirit Guide: Your getting close to the top.

Me: I didn’t know that.

Spirit Guide: I’ll see you at the top!

As I climbed and climbed then more fatigued I become. My fatigue made me think of the many ways the hike was a reflection of my life journey. The hike made me think of…

  • The moments where I felt defeated in life and gave up.
  • Every life challenge I have overcame.
  • Being four classes a way from having the initials Dr. added to my name.
  • People who counted me out in life.
  • All the strength that I have is all I need.

Overwhelmed by my thoughts and physical fatigue, I took another break. I saw my spirit guide again.

Spirit guide: Your extremely close to the top.

Me: Really?

Spirit guide: For you to make it this far up the mountain speaks volumes of your character. You are some type of woman!

Spirit guide: I thought you would have turned around.

Me: I thought I would have turned around too.

Spirit guide: Sometimes all we need in life to make it through any thing is God.

Me: Absolutely!

Spirit guide: Do you mind if I give you a gift?

Me: No, I don’t mind.

Spirit guide: *Reaches in her bag and pulls out a cross necklace*

Spirit guide: To make it through all you need is God, see you at the top!

Me: Thank you!

Needless to say, I made it to the top of the mountain. I didn’t see my spirit guide again, it was like see vanished once she delivered the message I needed to hear. The cross she gave me I carry it with me daily.  The Camelback mountain hike served as a metaphor for not letting anything deter me from the intentions I set for my life. The journey will be challenging but eventually with hard work and perseverance I will make it to my destination. I will make it to the TOP. Making it to the top looks different for every person but it’s possible if we believe.

My intentions set for Camelback mountain manifested beyond what I imagined. I made it to the top of the mountain, was at one with nature, and had a liberating spiritual experience. The phrase see you at the top holds a meaning now. See you at the top!

Until next time…

-Peach

30 Things I Learned Before Turning 30

Tomorrow I’ll be 30! The big 3-0. I can’t believe it! I’m a real ASS adult now. By 30 I thought I would have accomplished everything I projected for my life. You know…marriage, kids, and a house with a white picket fence. But none of that happened. The universe had different plans for me, and I’m okay with that. I am right where I need to be! As far as my 30’s goes I’m going to let the universe guide me, because when I just exist and be fully present the most beautiful things happen.

Along my journey to 30 I have learned a lot (there still is so much for me to learn). I wanted to share what I know to be true from my lived experience as Peach. So here they are…the 30 things I have learned before turning 30.

  1. Express gratitude!
  2. Self-love is important.
  3. We co-construct our reality.
  4. I am worthy.
  5. Alone time is so amazing and much needed.
  6. Self-work is the hardest challenge one will ever endure in life.
  7. What’s for me is for me, what’s for you is for you!
  8. Every women needs good sister-friends, the type of friends that will call you out on your shit and pull you back up.
  9. Use your talents and gifts to the highest potential.
  10. Meditation=mental liberation.
  11. Move in silence.
  12. Black is beautiful!
  13. Therapy can save you.
  14. Be mindful of the what you eat.
  15. Be mindful of the media you consume.
  16. Be mindful of your mental, spiritual, and physical health.
  17. Just be MINDFUL!
  18. Heartbreak is vicious and hurts like hell.
  19. Live life, it goes by so fast.
  20. Love, support, and uplift family/friends/partners that do not bring toxicity into your life.
  21. Set firm-boundaries.
  22. Say NO and say YES depending on the situation.
  23. Continue to learn, whether from a book or every life moment you encounter.
  24. Be careful of who you let into your space, your energy and light is sacred.
  25. Live your truth.
  26. Advocate for what you need.
  27. Self-care practice is a life necessity.
  28. Travel often.
  29. Learning how to communicate with people in a healthy manner is key.
  30. Becoming the highest evolved version of yourself comes at a price.

I hope with the 30 things I shared something resonated. That being said, Happy Birthday to me!

Until next time…

-Peach

Self-Care Series: Flexin On Em’

In a few weeks I will be approaching my six month healthy eating milestone. Six months may not see like a lot of time to some…but to me six months is a great length of time. Hell six months is half a year! What inspired me to make conscious decisions about the food I ate was therapy. In therapy the more self-work I did, I was able to identify how my self-worth and perception of food was all interconnected! So…while growing through therapy and my spiritual awakening, I knew that I had to shift my eating habits. I couldn’t work on the mental/spiritual aspects without including the physical. The physical included food and exercise. Plus it was a wrap, once I learned food is a natural healer that heightens or descends our vibrational frequencies. Who doesn’t want to vibrate higher?

Currently, I am a flexitarian which means I am semi-vegetarian. When I say flexitarian the initial response I get from people is WTF! And to that I say, I am transitioning into becoming a vegetarian. In the transition process I am researching and learning more about food, to gain more confidence in my vegetarian cooking skills.

Right now my daily eating habits consist of plant based food items, fruit, and minimal complex carbs. When I do eat meat, my meat of choice is fish (lets save the fish debate for another time). I will admit, with changing my eating habits some days are challenging than others. The struggle gets real when I crave junk food, but a little portion of organic chips never hurt nobody (moderation is key). When I do crave junk food or feel tempted by old eating patterns, I am mindful by checking in with my body. A simple mindful check-in is asking;

  • What am I hungry for?
  • What do I currently feel?
  • What do I need at this present moment?

Mindful questions are wonderful in enabling us to appropriately identify our needs. When we are mindful of what we eat it is a loving self-care practice for the body. Never in my life did I think I would make such adjustments to my diet, but now I’m flexin on em’.

Until next time…

-Peach

Where I’ve Been

It has been a while since I last checked in. A lot of great and informative things have taken place, since my previous blog post. I moved to Arizona a month ago, and I am finally settled! Moved in, unpacked, and got my Feng Shui right! After getting settled, I set my intention on exploring and writing for my life (need to birth my baby called dissertation).

Any who…through exploring, I have met and continue to meet new people that are amazing! I have also been attending events and partaking in activities that are out of my comfort zone. In my exploration journey, I often wonder why I waited so long to move? Probably fear! But, I can say that leaving Colorado has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. I don’t regret it!

I am excited about what’s to come in my new destination (Arizona). To be in a place and space where I love my life, my career, and feel purposeful is a blessing. And to think around this time last year I was at my lowest point. Might as well cue the DJ Khaled song Shining (because that’s how I’m feeling right now) …

“Shinin’, shinin’, shinin’, shinin’, yeah (shinin’ yeah)

All of this winnin’, I’ve been losin’ my mind yeah

Oh, hold on (hold on, baby)

Don’t (don’t) try to (try to)

Slow me down (down)”

I say all that to say, make sure you stay tuned for future updates/blog posts.

Until next time…

-Peach

My Vibrational Match

2017 has started off with a bang! In a week, I will be moving to Arizona. Risking everything in my comfort zone for new beginnings. I have lived in Denver, Colorado for majority of my entire life, and now it is time to switch things up. I have no regrets about moving, and know that it is time for me to move. I instinctually felt that it was time for me to leave Colorado five years ago. Avoiding my instincts (something no one should ever do), I was too concerned with what other people wanted me to do, and I could never decide where I wanted to move.

In the mist of trying to plan where I would be moving, I decided to be still. In my stillness, I become more aligned with my authentic self, and the answer to my new location naturally appeared. The process of being still, and being in alignment is what Rev. Michael Bernard Beckwith calls vibrational match. I created a vibrational match for the vision I had for my life, and the universe responded in supporting my vision. By the universe supporting my vision, this brought light to what I manifested.

I am excited about the move, and the new career position I will be taking on as a healer/life coach. I may vlog my moving experience but I haven’t decided yet. Mind you…I am moving and starting a new career, while working on my dissertation.

As I write this blog post and think of all the years I felt stuck, I can now speak from a place of liberation. And here’s what I want you to know…

If you feel stuck in life, make an assessment! Assess the areas in life that you would like to grow, and the areas you need to change. It is through the assessment that you will be able to create a vibrational match that authentically reflects your life purpose. Once you are clear on your life purpose, and walk in your life purpose the universe will rise to meet you where you are.

Until next time…

-Peach

Love More Hate Less

A few days ago, I took the observatory role and watched people online hate on who they perceive me to be. It is interesting how so many people feel more comfortable with manifesting and receiving the energy of hate.

As I watched in amazement, I just felt sad for them. I’m a very lowkey person, I don’t bother people. I stay in my lane. Truth be told…I’m focused on raising my vibration levels higher and being a positive influence in the world. So, to see several message threads directed towards me was crazy.

As I reflected, which is something I do all the time…I started to wonder why do people love to hate but, hate to love? In the process of my reflection, the online banter served as a teachable moment. A teachable moment for me to share, what I know to be true about love and hate.

Here’s what I know to be true…

Hating on another person is a mere reflection of where you are in life. Hate in the catalyst of limited self-love and self-worth. Instead of hating, people should be diligent in using words to uplift and heal people. Practicing hate allows self-pain to flourish. Hate is the indicator that a person has a lot of self-work to do. In the past I operated from a space of hate, however as I evolved my being/thinking changed.

Practicing love is easy when your solidified with who you are as a person.

Practicing love looks like:

  • Embracing differences
  • Having humility
  • Compassion
  • Practicing empathy
  • Associating yourself with people that support spreading love
  • Shamelessly admitting when you struggle with giving and receiving love
  • Doing your self-work

Love is powerful and liberating…hate just reflects our insecurities. Love more and hate less.

Until next time…

-Peach

2016 Year In Review

2016 has been the most challenging yet beautiful year of my life. Challenging in the sense that I had to remove myself of old patterned behaviors, to transcend into my new journey of life. Honestly speaking, I was not ready to make a change but the universe felt differently.

When I reflect back, January till mid-June were the darkest days of my life. I literally didn’t want to wake up, and didn’t find my life purposeful. For half of the year I was severely depressed, and had massive anxiety attacks all the time. Stuck in the midst of my struggles, I started to wonder what would my life be like if I dared greatly (shout out to Brene Brown).

When I finally built the courage to dare greatly, I…

  • Put myself first
  • Loved myself
  • Left an emotionally abusive relationship
  • Quit my job
  • Struggled financially to gain inner peace and unconsciously improved my finances
  • Traveled a lot
  • Lost friends
  • Built stronger friendships
  • Committed myself to a spiritual journey
  • Ascended spiritually
  • Evolved in therapy
  • Started/maintained a self-care regimen
  • Started eating healthy which resulted in weight loss
  • Grew as a writer
  • Purged everything that no longer served me

From daring greatly, I am no longer in that dark space anymore. 2016 I categorized by the mantra #yearofpeach. I successfully accomplished my mantra! But who knew…that I would have to lose everything to gain so much more in return. I gained myself back! I gained back PEACH! I arrived at my destination (point intended) Destination Peach. Nothing can take away the inner joy and happiness I feel. I still have my down moments but that’s natural. Everything I envisioned for myself and manifested on my vision board came into existence. I did my self-work and I’m excited for 2017!

Until next time…

-Peach

Unfriendly Arrival: Living With Anxiety

anxietyAnxiety has a funny way of reappearing. Just when you think you’ve freed yourself of anxiety, it returns. Randomly! Over the past several months I have been doing an AMAZING job of not having any anxiety attacks. I’ve felt anxiety symptoms here and there, but no attacks. What has helped me get my anxiety under control has been therapy and a series of regimens. This past Sunday morning I received and unfriendly arrival, in the form of back-to-back anxiety attacks. In the moment of trying to talk myself through my anxiety, I felt defeated. Defeated in knowing that I had lost control of my anxiety. Defeated in knowing that it would take my body sometime to recover from, the intense mental and physical effects of anxiety. Defeated in knowing that I had shit to do on Sunday that could not get done. Defeated in knowing that nothing felt better than lying in bed away from the world. Through my defeat, I found clarity in my shamelessness.

When it comes to discussing anxiety, I’m not afraid to talk about it. Anxiety has been something I struggled with since I was a child. It wasn’t until my adult life, as I laid in the ER room…that I was actually able to identify my disorder. Anxiety is associated with fear, worry, and stress. Like many people in the world…I worry and stress at an absurd amount. Society attaches stigmas to anxiety. The stigma of your crazy, your too emotional, your making shit up, and your just nervous. The stigmas impose unrealistic views about what anxiety truly is.

And no, telling someone with anxiety to:

  1. Calm down
  2. Stop worrying
  3. There’s nothing wrong with you
  4. Relax

Does not work. To all the people overcoming some form of anxiety you’re not alone. You don’t have to suffer in silence, ask for help. Live your truth!

Until next time…

-Peach