The best thing I did for myself was be single. I was in a toxic relationship and wouldn’t admit it was toxic! All the signs were there, I refused to pay attention. Owning my truth, I made contributions to the toxic nature of the relationship by staying in the relationship for so long. When I finally came to the over-standing that this wasn’t the type of love I desired in a romantic relationship, I left!

And when I left, I felt free but afraid. I was afraid because I had spent a decade+ with someone I loved. Yet, there was a freedom in knowing that I wasn’t tolerating any B.S. and was finally putting myself first.

Spending a decade+ with a person, it took time for me to transition. I literally had to mourn the relationship. In those three years…

I needed to be by myself.

I needed to focus on myself.

I needed to focus on my mental health.

I needed to focus on God.

Three years is a long time to be single, but in three years I have grown. Now I’m not trying to be single forever, I still go on dates. I’ve shared a few vibes with people. Just haven’t found my unicorn yet. I say unicorn because it takes a special type of person to requite the love I need. Plus, people suggest that there are no good men out there, I don’t believe that to be true. Hence, the unicorn title!

To end this blog post, I want to share a few things I learned while being single.

1. I’m responsible for the energy I allow into my life.
2. I don’t need a person to make me whole, I am whole on my own.
3. It’s selfish to jump into another relationship without working on “my stuff” first.
4. The only love I truly need is self-love.
5. There’s valuable lessons to learn in pain and suffering.
6. I ‘m not wasting my summers on people who are not worth my time (s/o to Dion Cole for the summer metaphor).
7. All I need to do is work on myself and everything else will fall into place.
8. I love who I am.
9. I am very clear on what I want in a future partner.
10. Glow ups are a real thing!

For the people going through a breakup just know it does get better. Take your time…heal and love yourself.

Until Next Time…

-Peach