Destination Peach

Where Reality and Inspiration Meet

The Timing Of It All…

Last night it hit me! As I laid in bed watching Bali travel vlogs, I had the aha moment! I’m finally going to Bali. I’m going to Bali at the beginning of the new year. Like for real-for real going! Like, tickets have been purchased, going! Villa fees have been paid, going! My suitcase it already packed, going!

If you can’t tell, I’m super excited!

My trip to Bali has been a long time coming. I always knew I was always going. Just didn’t know when.

Back in 2016, I made up my mind I was going to Bali. I watched the movie Eat Pray Love and just knew that’s where I needed to be. I connected with the character Liz Gilbert. She was literally a visual representation of my turmoil at the time. I figured if she went to Bali to find peace, then I needed to go too.

Months later, I got the opportunity to attend a writing boot camp in Bali. The writing boot camp was for two months. In my mind, I was like…” this is my moment, I manifested this”. I couldn’t pass up the opportunity, but there was a caveat. I had to come up with $ 30,000. Yes, you read that right $30,000. $30,000 included lodging, excursions, some meals, and coaching. Even with all the amenities, $30,000 was too much!

At the time, I had no job. I had my teaching 401K and unpaid bills. The day I realized I couldn’t afford the $30,000 price tag, I sobbed. I felt like I missed my moment. In my frustration, I made a promise to myself that I would go to Bali on my own terms and conditions. Years later, I had to trust the timing of it all. It wasn’t my time to go to Bali yet. I wasn’t in the mental space to enjoy Bali. I’m ready now.

In trusting the timing of things, sometimes it takes a little longer for manifestations to come true. The key lesson in waiting is having faith. As we wait…we must ask ourselves is it our time? If it’s not our time, will we make space to receive what we desire.   

Until next time,

-Peach

Quotes and Notes #5

For a long time, I perceived challenges as something to be anxious about. The anxious energy was me assuming everything was not going to be okay. Overtime something switched. I began to realize I was anxious because, I was trying to control the challenge. I now know challenges are beyond my control. It is what it is. I can’t change the challenge, but I can change the energy I give to the challenge. Taking on a “is what it is” mindset helped me to relax about occurring challenges. It’s not to say that I don’t care about challenges, but I do care about what my body intakes on a mental-spiritual level. I can’t afford to exhaust myself mentally and spiritually, that’s expensive currency!

There is nothing I can do to control the circumstances of a challenge. The only thing I can control is how I respond. Before I respond, I question if the challenge is worth exerting my energy, knowing the challenge will quickly fade. Challenges appear as an attempt to teach a lesson and measure growth. If I am consciously aware and tapped into my “God Body”, I inner-stand everything is working for my greater good. With every challenge, there is a blessing. Case in point when I lost a committee member for my dissertation committee, I was BIG MAD! In my panic, I assumed worst case scenarios about by doctoral program. Feeling triggered, I checked my energy and made peace with the situation. It is what it is! In return, I found a new committee member who made the process much more fluid.

Me being at ease about challenges is not to say that I am a calmness guru. However, it is to say that when a challenge comes up, it triggers my anxiety to respond abruptly. To counter act the trigger I mindfully question myself about the challenge to re-ground myself. Lord’s knows it’s a process for me, but everything is working for greater good.

Let’s chat below…when it comes to challenges how do you go about overcoming them?

Until Next Time,

-Peach

And Then This Happened…

My feature story on Voyage Phoenix Magazine is now live! I am super excited and beyond blessed for this feature. Special thank you to Arron Walker of Arron Walker Photography for capturing these beautiful visuals. Also, thank you to Rebecca Carrick of Rising Phoenix Reiki Studios for the recommendation. To check out my feature story click the link below.

http://voyagephoenix.com/interview/meet-carmen-peach-verdum-destination-peach-east-valley/

Until Next Time…

-Peach

Three Years Later…What I Learned From Being Single

The best thing I did for myself was be single. I was in a toxic relationship and wouldn’t admit it was toxic! All the signs were there, I refused to pay attention. Owning my truth, I made contributions to the toxic nature of the relationship by staying in the relationship for so long. When I finally came to the over-standing that this wasn’t the type of love I desired in a romantic relationship, I left!

And when I left, I felt free but afraid. I was afraid because I had spent a decade+ with someone I loved. Yet, there was a freedom in knowing that I wasn’t tolerating any B.S. and was finally putting myself first.

Spending a decade+ with a person, it took time for me to transition. I literally had to mourn the relationship. In those three years…

I needed to be by myself.

I needed to focus on myself.

I needed to focus on my mental health.

I needed to focus on God.

Three years is a long time to be single, but in three years I have grown. Now I’m not trying to be single forever, I still go on dates. I’ve shared a few vibes with people. Just haven’t found my unicorn yet. I say unicorn because it takes a special type of person to requite the love I need. Plus, people suggest that there are no good men out there, I don’t believe that to be true. Hence, the unicorn title!

To end this blog post, I want to share a few things I learned while being single.

  1. I’m responsible for the energy I allow into my life.
  2. I don’t need a person to make me whole, I am whole on my own.
  3. It’s selfish to jump into another relationship without working on “my stuff” first.
  4. The only love I truly need is self-love.
  5. There’s valuable lessons to learn in pain and suffering.
  6. I ‘m not wasting my summers on people who are not worth my time (s/o to Dion Cole for the summer metaphor).
  7. All I need to do is work on myself and everything else will fall into place.
  8. I love who I am.
  9. I am very clear on what I want in a future partner.
  10. Glow ups are a real thing!

For the people going through a breakup just know it does get better. Take your time…heal and love yourself.

Until Next Time…

-Peach

One Year Blogiversary

peachToday marks one year ago that Destination Peach officially went live.  A lot has happened in the span of a year. From my blog posts…you can tell there has been an equal balance of me experiencing, good and challenging life moments. I remember when I first started Destination Peach I was afraid to go live. I wrote and published my first blog post Late Registration back in, June 2015. Yet the only person that could read what I published was me. Once I built up the courage to do more with my writing…it took me several months later to go live. Not to mention, I went through many blog designers, prior to finding a blog designer that understood my vision.

For the next year, the goal is to keep the momentum going with Destination Peach with more consistent/quality blog posts. The goal is to also, birth my book titled Destination Peach (which I have already started writing). Mind you, I will be pursuing these passion projects, while trying to complete my terminal degree (only five classes left).

I just want to thank everyone that continuously reads and supports Destination Peach, it MEANS THE WORLD TO ME! This is only the beginning, there are many great things to come.

Until next time…

-Peach

Get to know me

25 Questions

I always wanted to do an online tag. So, I figured what better way to share more of who I am then by doing the 25 Questions tag. Here’s more about me…

1. What is your middle name? Essie…just like the nail polish.

2. What was your favorite subject in school? Journalism!!!

3. What’s your favorite drink? Simply lemonade with raspberry, so addicting.

4. What’s your favorite song at the moment? Jeezy- Sweet life.

5. What would you name your future child? IDK…something epic!

6. Do you participate in any sport? Nope, in the past I played basketball and volleyball.

7. What’s your favorite book? Thank You And Your Welcome by Kanye West. The book is very short, simple, and effective.

8. What’s your favorite color? Any color that is bright.

9. What’s your favorite animal? I don’t have one.

10. What’s your favorite perfume? Guilty by Gucci.

11. What your favorite holiday? Christmas and my birthday.

12. Have you graduated from high school? Yes! I graduated a long time ago and I’m still in school #professionalstudent.

13. Have you been out the country? I traveled to Rome and Greece, can’t wait to do more traveling.

14. Do you speak any other languages? A little Spanish.

15. Do you have any siblings? I have two older brothers.

16. What’s your favorite store? Target!!!

17. What’s your favorite restaurant? Depends on what I’m craving.

18. Do you like school? Absolutely.

19. Who are some of your favorite YouTubers? I have a lot of favorites too many to list.

20. What’s your favorite movie? I don’t have a favorite movie.

22. PC or Mac? Both.

23. What phone do you have? I have an iPhone  6.

24. How tall are you? I’m 5’2 and a quarter, emphasis in “quarter”.

25. Do you have pets? No pets.

Until next time…

-Peach