Destination Peach

Where Reality and Inspiration Meet

Back In The Office Update

Hey Heyy,

Hope everyone is feeling good and staying safe. I wanted to write an update about working in the office this past week. Last Monday, I was super nervous about going into the office. I have to say going into the office wasn’t bad. Hardly no one was in the office, which decreased my nervousness.

For the folks in the office we were all 6 ft apart. I had to remind myself several times to keep my distance. Being away from people, I missed human interaction. To not embrace people with a hug or handshake felt weird!

From my week, here are the pros and cons I noticed.

Pros about working at the office:

  • I love getting dressed and putting on clothes that make me feel good.
  • I get to interact with people.
  • Better sleep patterns.
  • I get to separate my work from my home.

Cons about not working from home:

  • Not getting to sleep in.
  • Spending money on gas.
  • No naps at lunch time.
  • Being able to control my environment (lightning incense and playing Jhene Aiko).

At the end of the day, these are minor pros and cons. I am blessed to have a job. I am blessed to be healthy in a COVID-19 world. As more places in the U.S. continue to open up, please be safe out there. There is no non-essential item worth loosing your life or harming the lives of others.

Until Next Time,

-Peach

Fun While It Lasted… No More WFH

Hey-Heyy,

Beautiful People! This morning I am mentally preparing myself for work. Today I go back into the office. My feelings are mixed. I am blessed to have a job! I’m even excited to be around people. But, I’m nervous!

I am nervous because COVID-19 is very real. There isn’t a vaccine. At work, we will have our temperature taken upon entry and will be separated. All of this is great! However, the way COVID-19 is set up you don’t know who has it. In attempt to stay ready, I am prepped with my mask and hand sanitizer.

We will see how today goes.

To be transparent, I’m in disbelief. My disbelief stems from the state of Arizona opening back up. The state is not ready. As COVID-19 cases are continuing to rise, we are all putting our health at risk to act like life is normal again.

I’ll keep everyone updated on how everything goes.

Have a blessed Monday!

Until Next Time,

-Peach

Quarantine Check in- Taking a step back

Hey Heyy,

How are we all doing? As we are living in interesting times, the effects are weighing on me. I know I’m not the only one feeling this way. To cope with how I am feeling, I’ve decided to take a step back.

As I have been working to help other people feel better, I depleted my energy. I’ve been taking on the energy of others. Le struggle, of an empath-healer. I literally woke up one morning last week and said, I have nothing to give. I thought to myself, how can I motivate and inspire others if I have no motivational energy to pull from. I needed a break. In my break, I haven’t been doing much of anything besides being kind to myself, and setting boundaries on how/when I help others.

Sometimes, I forget the influence I have. Many people look to me for motivation and sound advice. This can be overwhelming at times. As we help others we must be strategic in how we help and set boundaries. Say no sometimes. We can’t give to people when we are depleted. If you must take a step back, step back and don’t feel guilty in doing so.

Until next time,

-Peach

Toxicity is a choice!

Hey Heyy,

Today’s blog post has been inspired by recent things I’ve seen online and conversations I’ve been having. Lately, I’ve noticed the glorifying of toxic behavior, toxic relationships, just overall toxic ways of living. Such glorification has many people confused into believing toxic behavior is a normal way of life.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this but, it’s not normal to…

  • Stay in an abusive relationship.
  • Curse, scream, and yell at people.
  • Be drunk and high all the time.
  • Be around drama all the time.
  • Always play the victim.
  • Cheat and manipulate.
  • Physically harm yourself or others.
  • Sexually violate people.
  • Be negative and complain all the time.

As adults we all have choices. Toxicity is a choice! I repeat, toxicity is a choice! As adults we have to take responsibility for the types of people and energetic situations we allow into our lives. When you allow toxic situations into your life, don’t cry woe is me. Active participation in dysfunction comes with consequences. Own your ish!

Now some people reading this may say, growing up in dysfunction is the reason they act a certain way. I understand but I can’t empathize with a diabolical excuse. How we are raised doesn’t give us the right to continue toxic behavior as adults. The moment we are able to distinguish what toxic behavior is, it is up to us to change those behaviors. This is why self-work is so important and one of the hardest jobs in our lives.

When we engage in toxic behavior it is a dishonor to ourselves. Do we not love ourselves enough to make healthier choices serving our highest self? Make good choices! Make non-toxic choices! If you find yourself getting off track, take a moment. Pause/reflect and get back on track.

Until Next Time,

-Peach

Things That Made Me Smile

Hey-Heyy,

Beautiful people! Y’all feeling alright? I’m keeping this post lighthearted today. Today’s post has nothing to do with reflection, introspection, or best practices. Just sharing some things that made me smile. Smiling is a necessary mood booster.

Here’s what made me smile this previous week:

  • Season 4 of Insecure is back in action! One of my favorites TV shows.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH17mrNyyWM
  • This cute kid singing. He warms my heart! Everything is gonna be alright.
  • This couple expressing they’re love for each other. If my man don’t speak life into me like this, I don’t want him. Love is a beautiful thing!
  • Diddy’s dance-a-thon on Instagram live.
https://youtu.be/fYw67DH3oKc
  • Dr. Michael Beckwidth’s Sunday service at Agape. His messages resonate on a soul level.
  • A man sang the Bad Girl song by Usher to me in Walmart. I can’t make these things up! Take a listen below.

Remember to find a reason to smile today and for the rest of the week.

Until Next Time,

-Peach

WFH Chronicles: Create Structure In Your Day

Hey-Heyy,

How is every one doing? Not sure about y’all, but I am doing! My mental health is throwing me for a loop while being in the house. Today, marks my third week of working from home. Some days I enjoy working from home. Some days I want to be around people. Typical Pisces right! I’ll say this, living solo hits different when you are in quarantine.

Nevertheless, I am blessed to have a job that allows me to work from home. There are millions of people who don’t have a job right now. There’s also millions of people who have to work among the general public putting their health at risk. I have the upmost gratitude for my current situation. I get to stay home where I am safe.

At home, I’m still working M-F. My grind doesn’t stop because I’m working from home. I have special projects I’m working on and self-care is a priority! The perk of working from home, I get time back to myself. My intention is to make the most of said time, especially on days when my mental health is feeling great.

To balance special projects and my work schedule, I need structure. To create structure in my day, I rely on my daily productivity worksheet. The worksheet has been apart of my morning routine for some time. Establishing a routine is necessary as we adjust to the new normal of being in the house.

Below is an example of what a typical day for me in like during the work week.

If you need support in structuring your day while #stayingathome, you can download my productivity worksheet below.

Destination-Peach-LLC-Daily-Productivity-WorksheetDownload

I hope this worksheet can be resource to everyone as we kick it in the house.

Until Next Time,

-Peach

Take Quarantine Inventory on Your Life

As I’ve been sitting in the house all I have is time to think. Such thinking has inspired me to take inventory on my life. You know, taking a deeper divine into situations and people that have to go. Truth be told, I’m always reflecting and making modifications. However, now I have more time and less distractions. Being in quarantine really gives perspective on who’s really there for you and who’s not. If your in quarantine and realize certain people or situations no longer serve you, it’s time to take inventory.

When something no longer serves you it will be an undeniable gut feeling. You can feel something isn’t right. When you get that feeling, it’s a nudge for you to change it. Here’s a few quarantine examples…

  • You call or text people and they don’t communicate back.
  • You read text messages or receive phone calls about things your not interested in.
  • Movies or music you were once interested in become annoying.
  • Your seeking more meaning from life.
  • You are struggling with being still and getting to know yourself.

If any of those examples sound familiar…it’s time to take inventory. To guide your quarantine inventory process, find a place to be still and reflect on the following questions:

  1. What matter’s the most to me right now?
  2. What areas of my life have I been the least productive in?
  3. Who has contacted me and asked me, are you okay?
  4. Who have I contacted during quarantine, did they appreciate it?
  5. What thoughts, things or people are adding more anxiety/stress to my life?
  6. What thoughts, things or people are adding extreme joy and sanity into my life?
  7. If quarantine becomes my new normal for a few months what should my daily/weekly schedule look like?

I hope these questions serve purpose in helping you make space in your life for new people/things after quarantine.

Until Next Time,

-Peach

Uncorked: Family Outliers

Hey-Heyy,

How’s everyone doing with chilling in the house? This past weekend was better for me than previous quarantine weekends. I’m still adjusting to my new normal. Digital content is helping me with said adjustment. Giving me something to do. Uncorked the movie, let’s talk about it! Uncorked premiered March 27th on Netflix. It was a really good movie. I’m not going to give any spoilers. I’ll say this, there were many resonating moments in the film.

The main character Elijah, I connected with. We shared many similarities. Being the family outlier. Being distant or vague about plans, in fear of judgement. Having the opportunity to work/own the family business but declining. Letting fear and lack of persistence hold us back from accomplishing dreams. Trying many professions to find one that sticks. This film read my soul.

The bigger theme of the film that stood out was….the concept of being different and what different looks like in the Black families. After watching the movie, my mom and I had a conversation about me being different and what acceptance felt like for me growing up. From our conversation, I will say this…

In the Black community, when we choose to do something out of the norm from our conditioned upbringing sometimes it’s not well received. To shift our family narrative in a impactful way, sometimes we go through many wonderful life moments alone. What I have learned overtime is, we can’t expect our family or outside people to understand. If there is something we are passionate about or feel purposeful in doing, we must lean into the uncertainty and go with it.

Outliers in families are divinely created to shake ish up. As families, we can become conditioned into limiting mindsets. In return, when limiting mindsets become a normalcy, the universe sends people into our lives to change our way of being. Outliers hold the gift of getting families to create a new normal.

Salute to the outliers of every family. The family outliers who are never understood, move to the beat of their own drum…and continue to move forward in their pursuits when their scared as hell. Whether you know it our not, your family appreciates and respects the changes you make.

I encourage everyone to watch the film Uncorked. The film beautifully depicted the “being different” conversation Black families and any family for that matter don’t discuss enough. From your family experience would you say are the outlier? If you are the outlier, what has the experience been like for you?

Something to think about…

Until Next Time,

-Peach

Social Distancing: Le Struggle…

Hey-Heyyy Beautiful People,

How y’all feeling? I want to be fully transparent, I am struggling with social distancing at home. I’m taking full ownership for how I’m feeling. I am embracing what I feel. Some days are good. Some days are challenging. In working through those challenging moments, I am mindful in knowing my mental health and living alone plays a role in how I feel.

Yes, I’m an introvert but even an introvert can only take so much isolation. Being isolated all the time is not healthy for me. Isolation for extended periods of time makes me feel anxious and depressed. I can only read, watch, facetime, organize, plan, and sleep but so much.

I know I am not the only person feeling this way. I am fully aware of the many solutions on how to handle social distancing. Hell, I’ve even shared some tips! How I feel tuh-day, Imma need some time to work through it.

I’ll keep everyone updated on how I continue to deal with social distancing and my mental health.

Until Next Time,

-Peach